The Parental Position,Parenting In Today's Society

Parenting in today's world is to me like trying to loose weight,damn hard. Ok so another situation has come across my path which compelled me to write this. It has become increasingly difficult for me and my fellow parents to raise children in today's society/world with all the outside interference,influence, and a world wide abundance of  information. The task of teaching our kids our way is clouded by the notion that we're very limited in the methods that we are allowed to use,the fear that we're being to stern & what has been so called the better way.I will admit that my urge to be a better parent than mine were haunts me everyday,but is it really better? The feelings of being trapped.. but understand I'm only trapped once I've  accepted that there's nothing that I can do. The number one thing that can dismantle your efforts to groom your child is negative outside interference,whether it be parents,relatives or any other influential interference. A child's  needs to know their place is just that. It's impossible to govern someone else's family from an outside position,each structure is different which kind of makes it hard to impose the same outlook collectively. If it's not hard enough trying to instill some since of morals,guidance,discipline into my child I could do without all of the misguided attempts at helping. Oh yes,we will often think that bs idea that we are doing so much better than that next person but who's own perspective of what they're doing has been critical?sure maybe a few, but overall...everyone else's opinion will probably be slightly if not totally different. For the ones that come around for the good or easy times try being there when thing get rough,witness first hand and then and then only will what you have to contribute become significant. Structure is very important today in a world where it's not how  much you make sense or how right you are,but how popular you are,and that in itself is a very dangerous sentiment.    

Can’t Plan It All-The Unpredictable

Whatever happens happens, I believe that people come into our lives for many different reasons & we either accept things for what they are,constantly try analyzing every little thing,or try to create some theatrical play of our lives,everything can’t be explained,will not always fit into a pretty little picture frame

Not Easily Broken

As they work overtime to tear you down,you have to work equally as hard to stay grounded to who you are. A statement comes to mind "Not Easily Broken" STOP living that lie! you're here then you're gone,is blaming everyone for your poor choices,lack of clear judgement,lack of common sense,constant mistakes going to achieve your desired results?cry...because we may all listen for about 5 seconds,but constantly bumping your head against a brick wall will tend to hurt a bit. When you take care of/strengthen your inner circle nothing can break that, a refusal to fight is not giving victory,only realizing that there are no victors in this battle. it's sad when one thinks that every word that you write is specifically about them,if it's the fact that it relates to you,well there are a lot of other people that can relate so believe me it's purely coincidental.. I ask this question... ever wondered why someone would work so hard to convince you that something is as they interpret it to be? when their truth is not your own. Delusions,blame and excuses seem to make the bs that you're working overtime to feed everyone including yourself much easier to swallow

Food For Thought

 Seasoned Chicken & Eggs  Just got finished preparing & eating this for breakfast.. If you enjoy eating chicken & eggs then this is a great eat for you,not to mention it's healthy & quick to prepare😋👏. All you'll need is one chicken breast & two eggs or egg whites if you prefer. First you cut your breast into sections or pieces,next you season your breast I usually use garlic pepper and seasoned tenderizer,but again your taste,your choice. Then I add a little bit of water & a cap full of olive oil to a cooking pan,cook on med. for about 10 minutes,I usually add my eggs to the side of the same pan as my chicken finishes so does my eggs. This along with your morning cup of coffee or orange juice. Hope this was informative

Dear You

UDear You,You are emotionally damaged as well as physically,sex is not a tool used to gain self worth,esteem,or to be used as leverage to obtain what you want,if there were a relationship resume what would yours read?how many facts would be left out?and vainly you assume everyone is out to get you when in fact I think you're inability to be honest and lack of communication as well common sense is your true enemy. You're the kind of person that can't fix things you'd rather find ways to destroy them or throw them away & replace them and this is how you live your life,you're not healthy to be around because if progress is not yours you don't want to see anyone else. Emotionally reckless is a statement that comes to mind when I think of you. I hope this helps you in some way to open to new possibilities,but ego issues probably won't allow that to happen.

Going Through It

It all started with a glance,lustful thoughts with no expectations,no direction,not looking,nor searching,at a great place in my life, also where I was comfortable with who and where I was at this time,a new job,and things seemed to have been taking a turn for the better,notice that I did say seemed,which is probably jumping the gun at this point, was it lust,was it infatuation,which will be greater understood as i go on,I wake up,started my day with my regular routine as usual,not knowing that this particular morning would be slightly different from my normal,I head out of the door, hop into my car and on my way to work,slight smile as I listen to talk radio which I did every morning before work to get my mind right or set the mood before I go in, I pull into the parking lot,driving down the isles searching for the closest parking space as I'm pulling in what do I see,her walking in towards the plant door,so I hurry up and park,grab my things and hop out of my car,she does not see me at this point,so I yell out to her    hey!!! she turns around and looks back,then I shouted hold up a minute..she did,so I proceeded to jog to catch up to her, not sure what to say I quickly blurted out yo yo yo baby what's up?lol,I'm just kidding..as I approached her I asked do you mind if I walk in with you ?she said sure I don't mind..I'm (me),I'm (her)she replied,ok,ok, nice to formally meet you (her)nice to meet you too. As time passed I would come to learn the real her,but who would or could have known that something that I intended to be just a fling would have turned into a series of events that would later spiral completely out of control and come to me having a new child and dealing with an emotionally damaged,confused,manipulative person. Can it be it that it was all so simple then?. The one on one visits by my place where we would enjoy each other's company  ,before the family home invasions,your past  constantly rearing,the constant arguing about who's kid is better,the religious bullying,the lack of intimacy,the lack of communication which I doubt we ever had in the first place,the constant critical behavior,you didn't see the allegations? check the resume?. You've been coached that it's me that will loose if this whatever it is changes truth is it doesn't matter because I truly can't miss what I never had to begin with and that's a real relationship. Yep,gave up a lot,missed out on so much shit living this life, but still,even though I know,how the hell did I end up here?!?! I'm quite sure many can understand this story you get with the local promiscuous female, not knowing the story/background you fall victim to her false charms, or attributes but trust me the story almost allways ends the same,then bringing babies into false relationships is not a good idea because regardless of the selfish motives that child has to live with your fucked up choices. It's always the same he did this,she did that but never resolving shit just holding on to give that kid a better opportunity than you had,all seems like it makes sense,multiple baby daddies got you echoes of your not my dad,you're treating your kids better than mine when it's just personal feelings that got you all feeling orientated. Can I write it down? you know,keep tabs,like every little thing I do I wanna feel like you owe me something,a damn shame that prenup feeling,place a price on what?years..moments,experiences,gifts,knowledge,is acknowledging that enough?truthfully the next best thing is the next best thing & loves not time,it is precious,but we good at wasting it.

When it all goes down

I will be the first to admit that I've made a million mistakes that I wouldn't call regrets but if there were any chance to go back and redo some of this shit I wouldn't think twice. Life has a way of bringing you to a place where all you have left is reflection and choice,reflection on the choices that we've made and the choice to move forward without the clouded judgement of what could have been. So many things we do in our daily lives that we ourselves look to as mediocre as well as others around us. It's important as a lover of ones self that we take pride in each and every thing that we do,no matter how small it may be,because everyone won't go on to do big or great things in their lives and sometimes chasing that big or great happening we let life pass us by. People always seem to be fixated with/on how much? how big? how many? keeping score instead of appreciating and embracing the fact that nothing is owed to us or obligated by us . To see good is impossible when your always looking for,hoping for or expecting more,and comparing this to that. As an individual I try and stress the word try to separate my feelings of not being good enough compared to that other persons accomplishments.That my feelings of wanting to do better for myself and where I'm at,at this point doesn't discourage me from trying to do better. We all have to start from somewhere, and unfortunately most of us from the bottom. More Than Words,it's easy to become successful and hoard this for yourself,but how about helping others to get there? I know I would