Friday, November 11, 2016

Dating & Relationships 101

Dating and Relationships are complicated enough without all extras. I get exhausted sometimes just saying the words.Taking to online has really taken a piss on the matter as well. I have learned from my experience in the dating world that there are very much detrimental dos and dont's. Now this male and female psychological thing isn't very complex,but we tend to complicate shit by throwing ego and emotional self worthiness into the equation which tends to lead to the argumentative point in a relationship. While I'm speaking on the word relationship I want to just say that a lot of people tend to get mixed up or selective on what they'd consider a relationship and base on feelings and mind state when dealing with each encounter individually,but in fact no matter how insignificant,brief,emotionless
a relationship is and I quote "the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected." now back to what I was saying. Once we get to the argumentative state it's time to decide whether or not it's worth the stress of making or proving a point,prolonged bickering,longterm unresolved attitude issues and an overall stain on your relationship? One of the number one destroyers of a relationship is egotistical issues,one wanting to always be right and never compromise,you can't always be the one talking,because I'm pretty sure if you are then you can't possibly be listening. Communicate your concerns,no matter how you think the other may take it,don't take to the streets for guidance because you'll receive a lot of misleading information which can only further damage a relationship. Remain intimate with your partner at all cost! I STRESS NOT JUST SEX! I know it seems hard,but without an ego it gets a lot easier. Effort is the key to an effective healthy relationship, I can't recall how many times I've purposely shut down,shut out,let ego control my actions but the outcome was always the same,nonproductive bs. I tell you this,you must want it or it won't work. P.S. Watch out for mental instability signs because in some cases there's just nothing you can do.;)

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